From a renowned sociologist, the wisdom of saying goodbye
Sara Lawrence-Lightfoot is enthralled by exits: long farewells,
quick goodbyes, sudden endings, the ordinary and the extraordinary. There’s a
relationship, she attests, between small goodbyes and our ability “to master
and mark the larger farewells.”
In Exit, her tenth book, she explores the ways we leave one thing
and move on to the next; how we anticipate, define, and reflect on our
departures; our epiphanies that something is over and done with. The result is
an enthusiastic, uplifting lesson about ourselves and the role of transition in
our lives.
Lawrence-Lightfoot, a sociologist and a professor at the Harvard
Graduate School of Education, has interviewed more than a dozen women and men
in states of major change, and she paints their portraits with sympathy and
insight: a gay man who finds home and wholeness after coming out; a
sixteen-year-old boy forced to leave Iran in the midst of the violent civil
war; a Catholic priest who leaves the church he has always been devoted to, he
life he has loved, and the work that has been deeply fulfilling; an anthropologist
who carefully stages her departure from he “field” after four years of
research; and many more.
Too often, Lawrence-Lightfoot believes, we exalt new beginnings t
the expense of learning from our goodbyes. Exit finds isdom and perspective in
the possibility of moving on and marks the start of a new conversation, to help
us discover how we might make our exits with purpose and dignity.
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copy of Exit: The Endings That Set Us
Free by Sara Lawrence-Lightfoot, send an email to
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